Helping you to help an alcoholic - and yourself

Living with an alcoholic

Alcoholics are not the only ones who suffer from their drinking problem. Family and friends can be severely affected. If you live with an alcoholic you may also need support. Alcohol addiction help such as Triora’s family counselling can support you in coping with an addicted partner or loved one’s drinking. At the same time, we help them to manage their addiction to alcohol

How is your loved one’s drinking affecting you?

You could be affected on many levels - emotional, mental, physical or material. Perhaps your loved one’s drinking is causing problems with your relationship. Your family might be suffering the threat of economic hardship because your spouse risks losing his or her job. It could even have gone so far that your family member or friend is in trouble with the law. These and other effects of alcoholism, can place a huge strain on you and your family. 

Dealing with an alcoholic raises all sorts of emotions. As the partner of an alcoholic or parents of an addicted child, you may feel rejected, ashamed, powerless or frustrated. Relatives and friends of alcoholics often ask themselves:

  • Why me? Why our family? What did I do wrong?
  • Won’t all our problems be over if he she stops drinking?
  • How can I get her to stop?
  • What should I do if he relapses?

How can you help an alcoholic?

If you are wondering what to do and how you can help, here are some steps that you can take.

1.    Face the problem, together

  • If your loved one is addicted to alcohol, the problem will not go away. The best thing you can do is to face their drinking problem, and to be open and honest about it with them. Alcoholics are often in denial and find it very hard to accept that they have a problem. Do not take any reactions to your suggestions personally.
  • It can be painful for the whole family to admit that a family member needs addiction treatment, but try not to feel ashamed. People can become addicted to alcohol for a range of reasons. Millions of people from all backgrounds are affected by alcoholism and alcohol abuse. You are not alone.

2.    Be supportive but take care of yourself

  • You cannot force someone to follow addiction treatment. You can only offer your support, help and love. They will have to decide whether or not to accept your help - and that of others. 
  • Do not take on the role as your loved one’s counsellor or addiction coach: be aware of becoming codependent. 

3.    Get help

  • Enlist the support of others, for example other family members and friends who your loved one trusts and respects. 
  • Remember that a serious drinking problem usually requires professional addiction treatment, so urge your loved one to seek professional help. 
  • Do not be afraid to ask for help for yourself. Consider attending family counselling sessions with your loved one. 

4.    Remember that recovery is a lifelong journey

  • Unfortunately, it does not end when treatment starts - or ends. Recovery from alcoholism is an ongoing process, so be patient. 
  • Self-help is an important part of this journey. Friends or relatives can join Al-Anon which has groups in the UK and Spain.

The gifts of recovery

“And other people, my sister, my brother-in-law... I also treated them...Well, you apologize, and you talk to them… But they've forgiven me, and... They've embraced me again: 'How wonderful, we've got the old Toos back. No, it wasn't right, what you did. We've been very sad. But, but what else can we do, now that you've told us yourself? Now that you're so open and honest? Let's go for it again.' Those are also gifts. The gifts that recovery brings.” Toos

How can Triora help you?

Triora can provide continuing addiction care and support to help your loved one stay free from alcohol - for life. Our effective addiction help for families includes confidential family and relationship counselling. For a loved one suffering from alcoholism or alcohol abuse, we offer professional addiction care as an inpatient or outpatient at our private rehabilitation clinics in Spain. 

“And my husband... remained so very loyal to me in spite of it all... and was so very sweet to me. And I hurt him so deeply that... I still try to make up for it every day.”

- Toos

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“You're focused entirely on yourself. All your relationships fail… I lived with seven women during that period. Of course I understand why things didn’t work out.”

- Ben

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“I'm glad because I've found myself again. Because I'm worthy of being loved. Because I don't feel so lonely anymore. I'm back again, I'm part of things again.”

- Toos

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